While sitting down for dinner this evening I was informed by my daughter that she was "bad in school today". I asked why and she said for teasing and punching people. We talked about it and discussed it calmly and I thought the discussion was over. But she continued on.
"They almost called you" she said.
"Your teacher almost called me?" I asked.
"My teacher and the principal almost called you."
Stunned, I looked at Zac not sure what to say or how to react. I took a breath and calmly looked at her and asked if she had been sent to the principals office and she said she had.
I wasn't sure how to react so I had to think quickly. Thankfully, I reacted calmly and kindly and prompted her to continue. She still wasn't finished. She went on to tell me that she had written inappropriate things on her school work and that she had upset one of the lunch ladies. When I asked her why she had done all these things, she said that she didn't like doing her school work and that she was bored. I was really worried that this day would come. She really is in a world of her own or as her teacher likes to call it "Kierstenville".
The thought of putting her in school always worried me because of this exact thing. But thanks to her being so honest I now know what is going on at school and why and we can now address the problem and deal with it accordingly.
I am so glad that she felt that she could talk to me about this and I am even more glad that I was able to react rationally to the situation. I am not usually a calm person and I usually over react to things. Tonight was eye opening for me and I hope that I can continue to have these kind of talks with my daughter.
Now as for the school, why in the world did I not receive a call or email or so much as a note explaining all of this to me? I had to hear it from her. Not a lot of six year olds would come home and confess that they were teasing and punching and that they had been sent the principals office. My anger in this situation is directed at the school. But on the other hand, would I have been as nice and calm about the entire thing if I had heard it from them. Probably not.
This is a lesson that I needed to learn and thanks to my sweet, trusting, honest daughter I was able to learn this lesson which tells me that I will need it for the future. Hopefully this has also taught her that she can come talk to me about things going on in her life. A valuable lesson learned on both sides tonight.
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My oldest used to get in trouble A LOT and I would get called to school to talk to so-and-so. I wish he had been this honest with me, because every time I would ask him WHY we were getting summoned AGAIN, he had "no idea" and we would get a bombshell of devastation.
I'm glad you handled it so well with her! You're both great parents. Because of her honesty, YOU can now stay on top of it by contacted the teacher, etc. if you're wondering or concerned. Love ya!
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