Principals Office??

Today I am so grateful for the choice I have made to make it a point to sit down together as a family with no TV or other distractions and have family dinner.

While sitting down for dinner this evening I was informed by my daughter that she was "bad in school today". I asked why and she said for teasing and punching people. We talked about it and discussed it calmly and I thought the discussion was over. But she continued on. 

"They almost called you" she said. 

"Your teacher almost called me?" I asked. 

"My teacher and the principal almost called you." 

Stunned, I looked at Zac not sure what to say or how to react. I took a breath and calmly looked at her and asked if she had been sent to the principals office and she said she had. 

I wasn't sure how to react so I had to think quickly. Thankfully, I reacted calmly and kindly and prompted her to continue. She still wasn't finished. She went on to tell me that she had written inappropriate things on her school work and that she had upset one of the lunch ladies. When I asked her why she had done all these things, she said that she didn't like doing her school work and that she was bored. I was really worried that this day would come. She really is in a world of her own or as her teacher likes to call it "Kierstenville".

The thought of putting her in school always worried me because of this exact thing. But thanks to her being so honest I now know what is going on at school and why and we can now address the problem and deal with it accordingly.

I am so glad that she felt that she could talk to me about this and I am even more glad that I was able to react rationally to the situation. I am not usually a calm person and I usually over react to things. Tonight was eye opening for me and I hope that I can continue to have these kind of talks with my daughter.

Now as for the school, why in the world did I not receive a call or email or so much as a note explaining all of this to me? I had to hear it from her. Not a lot of six year olds would come home and confess that they were teasing and punching and that they had been sent the principals office. My anger in this situation is directed at the school. But on the other hand, would I have been as nice and calm about the entire thing if I had heard it from them. Probably not. 

This is a lesson that I needed to learn and thanks to my sweet, trusting, honest daughter I was able to learn this lesson which tells me that I will need it for the future. Hopefully this has also taught her that she can come talk to me about things going on in her life. A valuable lesson learned on both sides tonight. 

November Thankful Posts

Holy long time no blogging! Still no one reads this but with the existence of Facebook I might actually share my link…..maybe. 

Anyway…On to other things.

I have been wanting to write again. I have been having this nagging for a while now to write. My dream is to one day write something as amazingly awesome as Harry Potter but we shall see. But until I write that amazing book, I guess I will just write about the things of my life and the thoughts that I have and if you all are so inclined to read about what will most likely be my rants and annoyances and occasionally my inspired and happy moments, then GREAT! I hope you enjoy :)

I have realized that I have a lot to say and most of the time its my poor husband that has the pleasure of listening to me or at least pretending to listen to me. I know I talk a lot hun, I'm sorry. 

Something that has been on my mind since yesterday, that of course originated from Facebook, (what doesn't these days), is the November thankful posts. I know that you all know what I am talking about. Some of you participate in this Facebook started tradition, some of you enjoy seeing these thankful posts and some of you HATE this blasted tradition. 

This year I succumbed to the tradition and started doing the November thankful posts. In years past, I hated this! I hated seeing all these "happy" people so thankful for all these things in their lives and that they NEEDED to share them with the hundreds of friends they have accumulated on Facebook. Admittedly, I skipped most of those posts and continued on down the line of posts.

When I saw that first November thankful post, I thought, oh thats right, I forgot people did that. Here we go again! But then I actually read what this person wrote and it made me stop and think. What that person wrote was a true from the heart statement that most likely would have been posted regardless of the November thankful tradition, it just happened to start with Day 1.

I then started to think that maybe the people writing these posts aren't deliriously happy people that HAVE to share how great their lives are but that they truly are grateful and THANKFUL for that particular event or person or whatever in their lives and it made them feel good to post it for others to see. Then I thought to myself, I should do this this year (I must have been in a really good mood). So I did it! I wrote my first ever November thankful post. After I hit "post" and it landed itself on my profile page, I was rather surprised how good I felt. I thought that was silly so I ignored that good feeling and continued on with my day. 

Yesterday after an eventful, fun day, I decided to browse Facebook and saw the thankful posts and remembered that I needed to post one for the day. So I posted my Day 2 November thankful post and once again, I felt that good happy feeling that I felt the day before. Again I thought nothing of it and went on with my day. 

Later that evening I was again browsing Facebook and saw a post from a friend who is never one to hold back on her thoughts. It was a mostly vague post but everyone knew what she was talking about. I  started reading the comments on the post and saw that other people that are also my friends posted that they too hate this November tradition. My first reaction was embarrassment. I felt silly and stupid for falling pray to something that annoyed other people. And I felt that so strongly that I almost removed the posts that I had put up. Thankfully I wasn't in a place where I could do so, so the posts remained. 

I continued to think about that particular post all evening and even all day today. I asked myself why I was posting these thankful posts on my page and was it worth it to annoy all of these other people who HATE seeing them. I have come to a conclusion, YES, to me it is most definitely worth posting them. When asking myself why I post these things, I remembered how good I felt after posting them. It wasn't a "I'm so glad everyone can see how great and happy my life is" feeling but it was a "I feel really good saying it out loud" feeling. Being able to read back what I write helps me put my life into perspective a bit and realize that I really am thankful for these things or people in my life and I need to stop more often and see these things or people taking a positive role in my life. It makes ME happy.

I will continue to write these posts because they are good for ME and make ME feel happy about the family, friends, and other things that I have in my life. And to those haters, if I hadn't put Day 1 or Day 2 at the start of my post you most likely would have liked the post or perhaps even commented on it. So try not to think of these peoples posts as a bother or annoyance because perhaps these people truly are thankful for these things and just enjoy sharing their joy with others. Next time you see a November thankful post, just cover up the Day # part with your finger and continue to read a post that in any other month would make you like their post.